Relationship Rescue Intensive – 3-Hour Virtual Marriage Mediation – $1200
Your Marriage Is On The Brink. You Need Help That Works. Fast.
A 3-hour virtual intensive with two married mediators who've seen hundreds of marriages end — and know exactly how to help you save yours before it's too late.
Most couples say "I wish we'd done this sooner"
We Help People Divorce All Day. Then We Go Home and Fight Like Hell to Stay Married.
We're Ryan and Kate. We're both trained mediators.
Ryan spends his days sitting across from couples in their 40s who've decided their marriage is over. He helps them divide retirement accounts, create custody schedules, negotiate who gets the house.
In the last 2 years, Ryan has mediated hundreds of divorces. He knows exactly what the end looks like.
We see the same patterns in almost every divorce. The same regrets. The same "we should have done something sooner" conversations.
And then we go home to our own marriage. We have hard conversations. We use conflict resolution skills. We work on staying together.
This gives us something unique to offer:
- •We know the warning signs that lead to divorce (we see them every day)
- •We know what couples wish they'd tried before giving up (they tell us)
- •We know which communication skills actually work when you're overwhelmed (we use them)
- •We're not therapists theorizing - we're practitioners who see both sides
We're offering something we don't normally do: A 3-hour intensive using our mediation skills to help couples on the brink save their marriages.
Because we'd rather help you not need us as divorce mediators.
This Isnt Therapy. This Is Skills Training Using Mediation Techniques.
We're not exploring your childhood or treating psychological conditions. We're teaching you mediation communication skills - the same structured protocols we use with divorcing couples who can barely stand each other.
Here's what we actually do in the 3 hours:
Active Listening Protocols
We have each of you speak for 10 uninterrupted minutes while the other just listens. Then we mirror back what we heard.
This is a mediation technique for ensuring both sides are actually heard - not just waiting for their turn to talk.
Why this matters:
Most couples interrupt each other within 30 seconds. Nobody actually hears what the other person is saying. This protocol forces you to listen. Really listen.
Interest-Based Negotiation
We teach you to identify your underlying interests, not just your positions.
Example: Instead of fighting about "who does more housework" (position), we identify what you each actually need (interest): respect, partnership, rest, appreciation.
Why this matters:
When you're fighting about positions, nobody wins. When you understand interests, you can find solutions that work for both of you.
Reframing Statements
When someone says "you never help," we teach you to reframe: "I feel overwhelmed when I am handling dinner and homework alone, and I need support during that window."
Why this matters:
Attacks create defensiveness. Requests create conversation. We teach you how to turn attacks into requests in real time.
Breaking Impasses
When you're stuck, we use the same technique we use in divorce mediation: identify points of agreement, isolate the actual disagreement, brainstorm options, reality-test solutions.
Why this matters:
Most couples get stuck because they're trying to solve everything at once. We teach you how to break down big issues into solvable pieces.
Creating Action Plans
Just like a mediation settlement agreement, we document specific commitments: "I will do X by Y date. You will do Z." Concrete, measurable, accountable.
Why this matters:
Vague agreements fail. "We'll try to communicate better" doesn't work. "I will check in about my work schedule by Sunday evening so you can plan your week" actually works.
Managing High-Conflict Conversations
We teach de-escalation techniques: how to call a timeout without someone feeling abandoned, how to return to the conversation productively, how to repair after things get heated.
Why this matters:
You will fight. The question is whether you destroy each other in the process or whether you have tools to de-escalate and repair.
What Makes This NOT Therapy:
We're not exploring WHY someone has anger issues (that's therapy)
→ We're teaching you HOW to express anger productively (that's mediation skills)
We're not processing childhood trauma about feeling unheard (that's therapy)
→ We're teaching you techniques to ensure you actually hear each other NOW (that's facilitation)
We're not treating anxiety or depression (that's therapy)
→ We're teaching conflict resolution when emotions are high (that's mediation)
We're not diagnosing relationship patterns rooted in your past (that's therapy)
→ We're identifying destructive communication patterns and teaching you different ones (that's skills training)
Therapy Helps You Understand the Problem. Mediation Helps You Solve It.
Couples therapy is valuable. If you're processing trauma, exploring deep emotional patterns, or dealing with mental health issues - therapy is the right place.
But here's what we see all the time: Couples go to therapy for months or even years. They understand each other better. They've processed their feelings. They know WHY they're stuck.
But they still can't have a productive conversation about money. Or parenting. Or division of labor.
The Difference In Practice:
After 6 months of therapy:
You understand why money fights trigger you. You can articulate your feelings. You know it's really about security and trust, not the actual dollars.
But when the car needs a $3,000 repair, you still end up in the same fight.
After this 3-hour intensive:
You have a specific protocol for money conversations. You know exactly what to say when emotions start running high. You have a framework for making decisions when you disagree. You've practiced it with us.
When the car needs a $3,000 repair, you use the protocol. It's not perfect, but you get to a decision without destroying each other.
What Each Approach Does:
What therapy does:
- • Explores WHY you feel what you feel
- • Processes past hurts and trauma
- • Builds emotional awareness and insight
- • Heals old wounds
- • Provides ongoing mental health support
What this intensive does:
- • Teaches you HOW to have hard conversations productively
- • Gives you negotiation frameworks for recurring conflicts
- • Creates specific, actionable agreements you both can follow
- • Builds communication skills you can use immediately
- • Provides a protocol for when the old patterns resurface
They're complementary, not competing.
Therapy digs deep. Mediation builds skills.
Therapy heals. Mediation equips.
Therapy processes. Mediation problem-solves.
When your marriage is on the brink, you need both the understanding AND the tools.
But if you only have 3 hours and you're in crisis - we're giving you the tools first. Because tools give you hope that this is actually fixable.
BOOK YOUR FREE 15-MINUTE CALLThe Relationship Rescue Intensive: 3 Hours That Could Save Your Marriage
Hour 1: Emergency Assessment
We start with the truth. Each of you gets 20 uninterrupted minutes to answer: "Where are we actually at?"
Not the polite version. The real version.
We use active listening protocols - you speak, your partner listens without interrupting, then we mirror back what we heard to ensure you were actually heard.
We listen for destructive communication patterns. How deep they are. How much time you have.
Then we tell you exactly what we're hearing - no sugar-coating, no judgment:
"Here's what's happening. Here's where this leads. Here's what we need to address first."
Sometimes the relief is just having someone see it clearly and say: "This is serious, but it's not over yet."
Hour 2: Emergency Tools
Based on what showed up in Hour 1, we teach you specific mediation communication techniques:
- Interest-based negotiation - Moving from positions ("you're wrong") to interests ("here's what I actually need")
- Reframing skills - Turning attacks into requests in real time
- De-escalation protocols - How to call timeout without abandonment, how to return productively
- Breaking impasses - The specific technique we use when divorcing couples are stuck
- Active listening structures - Ensuring both people are actually heard
We practice these in real time with your actual issues. You'll mess up. We'll coach you through it.
You're not learning theory. You're practicing skills.
Hour 3: Apply It to Your Biggest Issue
We pick the recurring conflict that's actually killing your marriage:
- • Money and financial stress
- • Parenting disagreements
- • Division of labor and "who does more"
- • Career and whose takes priority
- • Sex and intimacy
- • Extended family issues
We facilitate that conversation using the tools from Hour 2. We catch destructive patterns in real time and redirect you.
Then we create your 30-Day Emergency Action Plan:
Just like a mediation settlement agreement, we document specific, concrete commitments:
- • The ONE pattern each of you will stop (specific behaviors, not vague promises)
- • The ONE new practice each of you will start (measurable, under 5 minutes daily)
- • Your repair protocol for after the next fight (step-by-step)
- • Specific check-in times to stay accountable
PLUS: 30-minute follow-up call in 30 days to troubleshoot what's working and what needs adjustment.
The Regrets We Hear Over and Over
After mediating hundreds of divorces, here's what couples tell us:
"We knew things were bad. We just didn't know what to do about it."
They understood their problems. They'd talked about them endlessly. They just didn't have concrete tools to actually solve them.
"We tried therapy but it was too slow."
By the time they got help, they needed immediate intervention. Weekly therapy for months wasn't fast enough.
"We should have gotten serious help sooner."
The average couple waits 6 years from "we're in trouble" to "we need help NOW." By then, the patterns are bone-deep.
"We waited until it was too late."
They kept hoping it would get better on its own. It didn't. And by the time they got help, too much damage had been done.
You're not there yet. But you're close.
The difference between couples who make it and couples who end up in our divorce mediation office?
The couples who make it get intensive help fast. They treat their marriage like the emergency it is.
Investment: $1,200 per couple
That's less than what one person pays for divorce mediation.
For perspective:
- • 3 months of weekly couples therapy: $1,800-$3,600
- • Divorce mediation (the "cheap" option): $1,590 per person = $3,180 total
- • Litigated divorce: $30,000-$50,000
- • What every divorcing couple tells us they'd pay to have tried one more intensive intervention: Everything
This includes:
- ✓3-hour virtual intensive (via Zoom, from your home)
- ✓Customized 30-day emergency action plan with specific, documented commitments
- ✓30-minute follow-up call in 30 days
- ✓Email support between session and follow-up if you get stuck implementing the tools
Our 30-Day Commitment:
Show up. Do the work. Implement the plan. If at your 30-day follow-up call you've done all of that and seen zero improvement - full refund.
We're that confident these tools work for couples who are willing to use them.
15 Couples Only — December & January Sessions
We're limiting this to 15 couples so we can give each of you the intensive attention this work requires.
Why the timing matters:
The holidays amplify everything. Family stress. Financial pressure. Forced togetherness. Old wounds resurface.
Couples on the brink barely survive the holidays. And January? January is when marriages finally break.
There's even a name for it: Divorce Monday - the first Monday in January when divorce filings spike nationwide.
Every January, our calendars fill with couples saying: "We barely made it through the holidays. We can't do this anymore."
You don't have to be one of them.
Get intensive help now. Before the holidays. Before it's too late.
Sessions available: December 2025 - January 2026
How It Works
Free 15-Minute Consultation
We'll talk honestly about where you're at. If this intensive is right for you, we'll schedule it. If you need something else (like crisis therapy or you're past the point where this will help), we'll tell you.
Schedule Your 3 Hours
Virtual via Zoom. From your home. We find a time that works - early morning before kids, late evening after bedtime, weekend, whatever.
Show Up Ready to Save Your Marriage
Both of you. Cameras on. Willing to be honest, do the work, and try something different. This won't be easy. But neither is divorce. Or living like this for another decade.
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About Us
Ryan – Co-Founder & Mediator
Ryan is a restorative mediator and former lawyer. With five years of attorney experience, he has mediated and/or litigated divorces, custody battles, commercial business disputes, juvenile matters, and more. Now, his focus is on out-of-court conflict resolution that maintains the integrity of all parties involved.
Kate – Co-Founder & Mediator
Kate is a trained Restorative Mediation practitioner and Rule 114 qualified neutral. She specializes in work with family systems. As a former collegiate soccer coach and youth mentor, her philosophical focus is on family systems, intergenerational trauma, and attachment theory.
Personally, we…
- •Have 3 littles... all daughters... all under 8 years old
- •Live in St. Paul
- •Raise chickens
- •Enjoy kombucha, sauna, and tattoos
We're not therapists. We're mediators who specialize in facilitating difficult conversations and teaching conflict resolution skills.
We're offering this because we'd honestly rather help you save your marriage than help you divide your assets later.
Frequently Asked Questions
Your Marriage Is Worth 3 Hours
You've tried ignoring it. You've tried hoping it gets better. You've maybe tried therapy.
Nothing has worked fast enough.
The holidays are coming. January is coming. How much longer can you keep going like this?
Three hours. That's all we're asking.
Three hours to learn tools that could save your marriage.
Three hours that could mean you don't end up as another divorce statistic in January.
You're on the brink. But you're not over yet.
Let's do something about it. Right now.
Or email: flannelpeoplemediation@gmail.com